Your sibling or best friend has bestowed the honor on you of being the best man or maid of honor and you are ecstatic! While there are many responsibilities to these roles, one of the most nerve-wracking can be the wedding day toast. Speaking in public is a fear for many people, who are not comfortable standing up in front of a crowd and being the center of attention. Take a deep breath and check out key ways to prepare for the toast and deliver it on the big day.
Create Content For an Excellent Speech
- Remember that if it’s a big wedding with lots of guests, many people may not know who you are, so start the toast with an introduction and how you know the couple.
- A toast is similar to speeches that you have written for work or school. It needs to be worked on in advance – not on the fly – and have structure to it with a beginning, middle and end.
- Stay positive and light with what you say and try to include both the bride and groom as it is their day. Think about a memory that will work well as an anecdote, such as how they met, were engaged or spent time on an adventure.
- Deliver your speech in a way that fits your personality. Crack jokes if you are a comedian; keep it sweet and light if not. You are not the entertainment and are delivering words that help make memories for the couple.
- End on a high note with an expression for a great future, request that everyone raise their glasses to the couple and wrap it up with a hearty “Cheers”!
- Don’t be tacky, mention old flames or your own marriage or relationships. Also, keep private future plans in confidence, such as having children.
- Do keep the toast at five minutes or less, deliver it with feeling and a smile, and make eye contact with the happy couple.
Conquer Your Anxiety and Stand Up Tall
Now that your copy is ready to go, prepare for actually saying the words on the wedding day!
- Practice and practice some more far in advance. If you need to, write out index cards or a script. If you feel that you need to have it written down, make sure you speak in front of a mirror to ensure that your delivery is not stiff.
- When preparing either in front of a mirror or to a friend or family member, pay attention to your facial expressions, body language, and overall appearance.
- Recording or taking a video of yourself can also help you really see how the speech will come off and help you get rid of any speaking in public fears that are hanging around.
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